12 Step Truth

Why Owning Your Mistakes Changes Everything

🔥 “Stop whining. Own your mistakes. Help someone else.” That’s not just a snappy Instagram quote — that’s page 94 of the Big Book calling you out with zero sugar-coating. Welcome back to Sober Psychology, where recovery isn’t therapy — it’s a psychological ass-kicking with heart. Today’s message? If you’re relapsing, if you're stuck in that cycle of “me, me, me,” then yeah, you’re gonna stay there. Because recovery starts when you get out of your own damn way. 📖 Page 94 of Alcoholics Anonymous says to outline your program of action. That means: ✅ Do a self-appraisal ✅ Clean up your mess ✅ Turn it into something that helps someone else This isn’t just an AA thing — it’s psychological gold. When you're helping others, you're not spiraling in your own self-pity. You're not trapped in victim mode. You're moving forward. That’s not fluff. That’s freedom. So if you're stuck, here’s your move: 👉 Look at your part. 👉 Take ownership. 👉 Go serve someone else. Because when you're helping them... guess who you're not obsessing over? You.