Counterfeit Intimacy

Why you aggressively clean the kitchen at 10 PM |

Are you starting fights just to get their attention? Let's talk about the Ego's Hitman and the "counterfeit intimacy" of conflict. 🛑🧠 Why do we sabotage a perfectly peaceful evening? Because conflict is loud, passionate, and requires eye contact. It mimics the intensity of intimacy, but without the terrifying risk of actual vulnerability. Your ego is basically a hitman hired to kill your peace, and it uses your specific personality structure to pull the trigger. If you're the Challenger type, you pick a fight to test their loyalty (I am very guilty of doing this with Skylar). If you're the Helper type, you become a martyr, aggressively cleaning the kitchen at 10 PM and sighing loudly so they ask what's wrong. And if you're the Peacemaker, you shut down, withhold affection, and make them guess why you're mad. It's time to stop the sabotage and learn how to be genuinely vulnerable. 💬 Let me know in the comments: Which sabotage style are you most guilty of: the Challenger, the Helper, or the Peacemaker? Be honest. 👇 If this hit a little too close to home, hit that LIKE button and SUBSCRIBE to Sober Psychology for more raw truth on mental health, relationships, and breaking toxic cycles.