Detox Your Heart

You're Turning Them Into a Drug

Let me ask you a question that might ruin your day: are you actually in love—or are you addicted to the pain of chasing them? If you’re checking locations, analyzing timestamps, and replaying conversations on loop, that’s not passion. Psychology calls it limerence. Limerence isn’t love—it’s an obsessive, involuntary cycle where you turn a person into a drug and project a fantasy onto a mannequin. In this Short, I break down the difference between love vs. obsession, why emotionally unavailable people hook your nervous system, and the Biblical danger of turning a partner into your god. If you’re stuck chasing someone who can’t—or won’t—choose you, you don’t need a relationship coach. You need a detox. If this hit home, like, comment, and subscribe. We don’t do the soft stuff here—just psychology, Scripture, and the truth that sets you free. —Michael, Sober Psychology