Dismissive Avoidant
2 episodes tagged "Dismissive Avoidant".
You Didn’t Set a Boundary — You Built a Bunker
Let me be honest with you—“protecting your peace” isn’t the same as building a life. A lot of you didn’t set a boundary… you built a bunker, and it’s getting lonely in there. What we call independence is often hyper-independence—a trauma response tied to dismissive-avoidant attachment. When your needs were ignored growing up, your brain learned a hard lesson: don’t rely on anyone. Here’s the way out: micro-dependencies. Start small. Ask for help. Borrow a pen. Ask for advice. Retrain your nervous system to learn that connection ≠ danger. Get out of the bunker. Risk the pain—because safety without connection feels a lot like death. If this resonates, like, comment, and subscribe for more straight talk on mental health, recovery, and faith. —Michael, Sober Psychology
The Vulnerability Hangover Nobody Warns You About
Let’s be honest: You tell everyone you are "protecting your peace" and setting "boundaries." You post about being in your "villain era." But deep down? You are just lonely. In this episode of Sober Psychology, we are exposing the lie of Hyper-Independence. As a psychologist in training, I see this constantly. We live in a culture that treats needing people like a weakness. We have convinced ourselves that cutting everyone off is "growth," when usually, it's just a trauma response. It’s Dismissive-Avoidant Attachment wearing a tuxedo. Today, we are stripping away the "therapy speak" excuses and getting to the raw truth. We’re talking about why you feel cringe when you’re vulnerable (the "Vulnerability Hangover"), why you ghost people when things get real, and what the Bible actually says about carrying your own burdens versus carrying a boulder. If you are tired of being the "strong friend" who is secretly drowning, this video is your permission slip to put the armor down. In this episode, we cover: - The Psychology: Why "I don't need anyone" is actually a trauma response (Self-Reliance Syndrome). - Attachment Theory: Understanding the Dismissive-Avoidant style. - The "Vulnerability Hangover": Why you want to hide after opening up. - Weaponized Therapy Speak: Are you setting boundaries or building a bunker? - Biblical Truth: Galatians 6 and the difference between a "load" and a "burden." - The Solution: How to start practicing "Micro-Dependencies" today. 👇 The Challenge: Are you ready to leave the bunker? Text ONE person today and tell them something real. Then comment "I SENT THE TEXT" below so I know you're doing the work.