Fantasy Bond
2 episodes tagged "Fantasy Bond".
Limerence Explained The Crush Turned Mental Illness
Today I’m breaking down limerence—when a crush turns into an obsession. Dr. Dorothy Tennov coined the term, and I see it all the time in recovery: people get sober from substances and then get high on another person. In this Short, I explain the neurochemistry (why rejection fuels obsession), the fantasy bond (why you fall for potential, not reality), and the Biblical danger of idolatry—turning a person into your god. Here’s the hard science: limerence looks a lot like OCD and addiction. Serotonin drops, anxiety spikes, and you start chasing a “fix”—the limerent object (LO)—projecting perfection onto a human being. If you’re stuck in this loop, it’s time to understand the mechanics and detox the attachment. If this resonates, like, comment, and subscribe for straight talk on psychology, recovery, and faith—no fluff. —Michael, Sober Psychology
Why Your Brain Chose 'I'm Bad' Over 'My Parents Are Bad'
Let me say this plainly: you’re not a hostage anymore. If you keep defending your parents at the expense of your own reality, there’s a psychological mechanism keeping you stuck—the fantasy bond. As kids, we needed our parents to survive. Admitting they were unsafe felt life-threatening, so our brains flipped the script: they’re good, I’m bad. That lie gave us hope and control. But that survival strategy becomes a prison in adulthood. It’s Stockholm Syndrome—falling in love with your captors to stay alive. Healing starts when you shatter the fantasy bond, tell the truth about what happened, and grieve it. If you can’t grieve it, you’ll repeat it. Fire your parents from being your gods. They were flawed people—not divine authorities. If this hit home, like, comment, and subscribe for honest conversations about trauma, recovery, and faith. —Michael, Sober Psychology