Healing Starts With You
2 episodes tagged "Healing Starts With You".
Why Do We Mess Up Good Things For Ourselves?
🔥 Stop Calling It Fate — You're Just Sabotaging Yourself 🔥 Let’s get honest: You’re not cursed. You’re not unlucky. You’re just sabotaging yourself. There’s a 2020 study in the Journal of Behavioral Decision Making that proves it: Self-handicapping — aka creating your own obstacles — protects your ego, but destroys your performance, your relationships, and your mental health. 🎯 For me? Self-sabotage looked like drinking through an entire decade of potential. Every time something good showed up — a new job, a solid relationship, even a promising friendship — I’d pour whiskey on it and call it fate. But it wasn’t fate. It was fear in a shot glass. It was me torching my own future because deep down I didn’t believe I deserved it. If that hits too close to home, good. It means you’re finally seeing the wreckage for what it is — self-made. 🧠 It’s time to stop blaming the universe for fires you lit yourself.
Why Your Childhood Shapes Your Friendships!
💣 Are You an Emotional Landmine? | Attachment Styles & Friendship Here we go — time to unpack why you’re blowing up every friendship like it’s your personal soap opera. According to attachment theory (shoutout to John Bowlby, the OG), your adult friendships are basically your childhood in disguise. 👶 Distant caregivers? You're probably the clingy texter blowing up phones with “Are you okay??” ten times a day. Chill. 🛑 Smothering caregivers? Now you’re the emotionally constipated ghoster who leaves people on read for a week. Congrats. But here's the kicker — you can change this. A 2020 study in Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin found that secure attachment predicts longer-lasting, stronger friendships. So what's that mean? ✅ Be real. ✅ Be consistent. ✅ Don't be a walking trauma dump. People don’t want to walk on eggshells. They want connection — not emotional landmines. So if you want to build real friendships, stop overcorrecting and start understanding your own damn attachment style.