John Bowlby

Why Your Childhood Shapes Your Friendships!

💣 Are You an Emotional Landmine? | Attachment Styles & Friendship Here we go — time to unpack why you’re blowing up every friendship like it’s your personal soap opera. According to attachment theory (shoutout to John Bowlby, the OG), your adult friendships are basically your childhood in disguise. 👶 Distant caregivers? You're probably the clingy texter blowing up phones with “Are you okay??” ten times a day. Chill. 🛑 Smothering caregivers? Now you’re the emotionally constipated ghoster who leaves people on read for a week. Congrats. But here's the kicker — you can change this. A 2020 study in Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin found that secure attachment predicts longer-lasting, stronger friendships. So what's that mean? ✅ Be real. ✅ Be consistent. ✅ Don't be a walking trauma dump. People don’t want to walk on eggshells. They want connection — not emotional landmines. So if you want to build real friendships, stop overcorrecting and start understanding your own damn attachment style.