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Stop Saying "I Feel Bad" (Do This Instead)

Wallowing in misery? Hell no. 🛑 The alternative is Emotional Granularity. Neuroscientist Lisa Feldman Barrett found that people who can specifically name their emotions are healthier and more resilient. Instead of saying "I feel bad," they say "I feel humiliated" or "I feel betrayed." When you name the demon, you tame the demon. In the Bible, this is called Lament. It isn't disrespectful to bring your raw, unfiltered complaints to God—it is the highest form of trust. It says, "God, I trust you enough to show you my ugly." The "nice guy Christian" hides his ugly. The real Christian brings it to the altar. 👇 Discussion: Look at the emotion wheel. Instead of "bad," what are you actually feeling today? Tell me in the comments.