limerence
5 episodes tagged "limerence".
Why You’re Obsessed (It’s Not Love)
Limerence isn't just "love"—it’s the ultimate painkiller. 🚩 If you are focusing 100% of your energy on them, it’s usually a distraction so you don't have to look at you. It’s a way to avoid your own trauma, your career, and your relationship with God. In this video, I break down why the Bible calls this "idolatry" (Romans 1:25). We look at the story of Leah and Jacob to show what happens when you ask a flawed human being to do the job of God. Humans make terrible gods—they crumble, leave, and disappoint. Stop looking for a Savior in a partner. 👇 Discussion: Have you ever realized your obsession was actually a distraction from your own pain? Let me know in the comments.
Why You Chase People Who Reject You
Let me be blunt with you—this isn’t love, it’s limerence. And neurologically, it looks a lot like OCD and substance addiction. In a healthy relationship, serotonin brings calm and security. In limerence, serotonin drops, anxiety spikes, and you start chasing a fix. That fix isn’t a drug—it’s a person. Here’s the trap: research shows that rejection intensifies obsession. When they ghost you, your dopamine doesn’t die—it surges. That’s not a “twin flame.” That’s frustration attraction. You’re not fighting for love; you’re chasing the high of turning a no into a yes. And that cycle will wreck your peace if you don’t name it for what it is. If this woke you up, like, comment, and subscribe. We get sober from delusion around here. —Michael, Sober Psychology
Limerence Explained The Crush Turned Mental Illness
Today I’m breaking down limerence—when a crush turns into an obsession. Dr. Dorothy Tennov coined the term, and I see it all the time in recovery: people get sober from substances and then get high on another person. In this Short, I explain the neurochemistry (why rejection fuels obsession), the fantasy bond (why you fall for potential, not reality), and the Biblical danger of idolatry—turning a person into your god. Here’s the hard science: limerence looks a lot like OCD and addiction. Serotonin drops, anxiety spikes, and you start chasing a “fix”—the limerent object (LO)—projecting perfection onto a human being. If you’re stuck in this loop, it’s time to understand the mechanics and detox the attachment. If this resonates, like, comment, and subscribe for straight talk on psychology, recovery, and faith—no fluff. —Michael, Sober Psychology
You're Turning Them Into a Drug
Let me ask you a question that might ruin your day: are you actually in love—or are you addicted to the pain of chasing them? If you’re checking locations, analyzing timestamps, and replaying conversations on loop, that’s not passion. Psychology calls it limerence. Limerence isn’t love—it’s an obsessive, involuntary cycle where you turn a person into a drug and project a fantasy onto a mannequin. In this Short, I break down the difference between love vs. obsession, why emotionally unavailable people hook your nervous system, and the Biblical danger of turning a partner into your god. If you’re stuck chasing someone who can’t—or won’t—choose you, you don’t need a relationship coach. You need a detox. If this hit home, like, comment, and subscribe. We don’t do the soft stuff here—just psychology, Scripture, and the truth that sets you free. —Michael, Sober Psychology
You Aren’t In Love, You’re Obsessed (The Limerence Trap)
Let’s be honest: Are you actually in love with them? Or are you just addicted to the pain of chasing them? In this episode of Sober Psychology, we are breaking down Limerence—the psychological term for when "having a crush" turns into a full-blown obsession. I see this constantly in recovery. We stop drinking, but then we start using people as our drug. We confuse anxiety for passion and toxicity for "soul ties." But science tells us that Limerence is closer to OCD and Addiction than it is to true love. Today, we are stripping away the fantasy. We are talking about the "Frustration Attraction" (why rejection makes you want them more), the danger of falling in love with a "Fantasy Bond," and the hard Biblical truth that turning a human into your source of happiness isn't romance—it’s Idolatry. If you are stuck in a loop of checking their location, analyzing their texts, and begging for crumbs of affection... you need a detox. 👓 IN THIS EPISODE WE COVER: • The Diagnosis: The difference between Healthy Love and Limerence (Obsession). • The Neuroscience: How "Frustration Attraction" hijacks your dopamine system. • The Fantasy Bond: Why you fall in love with "Potential" instead of Reality. • Biblical Truth: The story of Leah and Jacob, and the danger of making a human your God. • The Solution: Why "No Contact" is the only way to sober up. 👇 THE CHALLENGE: Are you ready to stop worshipping a ghost? If you are brave enough to block them and choose your sanity, comment "IDOL SMASHED" below.