Marriage Truth

If You Knew This, You’d Stop

Men, we need to have a hard conversation. You think it’s “harmless.” You think if she doesn’t know, it won’t hurt her. That’s a lie. When she finds out—and she will—it’s not just heartbreak. It’s betrayal trauma. Her reality shatters. Her nervous system goes into survival mode—panic attacks, insomnia, hyper-vigilance. She’s not “crazy.” She’s scanning for danger. And if you’re hiding porn, affairs, or secret behavior, you're the tiger in the bushes. Every click isn’t private. It’s a deposit into her trauma. You’re trading 5 seconds of dopamine for the psychological safety of the woman who trusts you. That’s not freedom—that’s addiction. If this hits, sit with it. Share it with a man who needs to hear it. And if you’re ready to break the cycle, subscribe. We tell the truth here. —Michael, Sober Psychology 🔗 More on addiction & relationships →