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Can Beat Elden Ring, But Can't Load a Dishwasher?

The Puer Aeternus (Eternal Boy) thinks real life hasn't started yet. He is living a "provisional life"—hallucinating the future to avoid the pain of the present. But what happens when Peter Pan gets into a relationship? He looks for his Wendy. He looks for a mother. This leads to a toxic manipulation tactic called Weaponized Incompetence. It’s when you pretend to be helpless at basic adult tasks (like loading the dishwasher or paying the electric bill) so your partner will just get frustrated and do it for you. Let's be real: If you have the focus and cognitive ability to beat Elden Ring on hard mode or memorize the stats of every NFL player, you aren't stupid. You just don't want to do the work. You are playing dumb to force your partner into the role of a parent. When you act like a helpless child, your wife doesn't feel like your lover; she feels like your caseworker. And nobody wants to sleep with their caseworker. Step up. Stop the weaponized incompetence.