narrativeidentity

What Happens When The Demons Are Gone?

Joy actually takes courage. It takes courage to look at a beautiful day, accept that you don't deserve it, and still say thank you instead of tearing it apart to pay for your own guilt. Stop trying to pay a debt that Christ already paid. Your self-inflicted misery is an insult to the cross. If I take away your depression, your anxiety, your marital drama, and your addiction... what's left? A blank slate. And for a lot of you, that is the most terrifying image in the world. In psychology, we call this narrative identity. For years, my story was: I'm Michael. I'm a struggling alcoholic. I'm the guy fighting his demons. That was my full-time job. But what happens when the demons are gone? You are left with an identity void. When the drama stops, you actually have to figure out who you are. You have to figure out what you like to do on a Saturday. Do you like playing golf? Do you like playing video games with your kid? Do you want to learn how to edit videos? You actually have to participate in a normal, boring, beautiful human life. And normalcy is terrifying to the addict, because normalcy requires responsibility. It is time to step into the blank slate.