Stop Blaming Fate

Why Do We Mess Up Good Things For Ourselves?

🔥 Stop Calling It Fate — You're Just Sabotaging Yourself 🔥 Let’s get honest: You’re not cursed. You’re not unlucky. You’re just sabotaging yourself. There’s a 2020 study in the Journal of Behavioral Decision Making that proves it: Self-handicapping — aka creating your own obstacles — protects your ego, but destroys your performance, your relationships, and your mental health. 🎯 For me? Self-sabotage looked like drinking through an entire decade of potential. Every time something good showed up — a new job, a solid relationship, even a promising friendship — I’d pour whiskey on it and call it fate. But it wasn’t fate. It was fear in a shot glass. It was me torching my own future because deep down I didn’t believe I deserved it. If that hits too close to home, good. It means you’re finally seeing the wreckage for what it is — self-made. 🧠 It’s time to stop blaming the universe for fires you lit yourself.