Why People Lie

I didn't lie because I hated her. (The dark truth) |

Are we sociopaths, or are we just cowards? Let’s talk about the dark truth behind lying, betrayal, and John Gottman's trust metric. 🛑🧠 I can speak on this because I lived it. When I was in active addiction, I lied to my ex-wife about things I didn't even need to lie about. It became a reflex. But why do we do this? Are we sociopaths? Usually, no. We do it out of pure cowardice. As John Gottman, the godfather of relationship psychology, explains: trust is built in small moments where you choose your partner's well-being over your own comfort. Betrayal is the exact opposite. It’s prioritizing your immediate gratification—a high, an ego stroke, an escape—over your partner’s sanity. Here's the dark truth about lying: I didn't lie to my ex-wife because I hated her. I lied to her because I hated myself. I was a coward who couldn't handle the consequences of my own actions. It's time to stop hiding and own the wreckage. 💬 Let me know in the comments: Have you ever had to face the reality that a lie was rooted in cowardice rather than malice? 👇 If you're ready to do the hard work and face the brutal truth, hit that LIKE button and SUBSCRIBE for more raw psychology, recovery, and breaking toxic cycles.