christianpsychology
5 episodes tagged "christianpsychology".
Stop Saying "I Feel Bad" (Do This Instead)
Wallowing in misery? Hell no. 🛑 The alternative is Emotional Granularity. Neuroscientist Lisa Feldman Barrett found that people who can specifically name their emotions are healthier and more resilient. Instead of saying "I feel bad," they say "I feel humiliated" or "I feel betrayed." When you name the demon, you tame the demon. In the Bible, this is called Lament. It isn't disrespectful to bring your raw, unfiltered complaints to God—it is the highest form of trust. It says, "God, I trust you enough to show you my ugly." The "nice guy Christian" hides his ugly. The real Christian brings it to the altar. 👇 Discussion: Look at the emotion wheel. Instead of "bad," what are you actually feeling today? Tell me in the comments.
Welcome to Sober Psychology (No Fluff Allowed)
Stop smiling. Let’s get real. 😐 Welcome to Sober Psychology. I’m Michael—a psychologist in training and a recovering "nice Christian boy" who used to think anger was a sin. If you are new here, here is the deal: 🚫 We don’t do fluff. 🚫 We don’t do "manifesting." We take the raw data of psychology and the gritty truth of the Bible to dismantle the lies we tell ourselves. If you are tired of pretending to be okay when you aren't, this is a safe place to be a mess. 👇 Discussion: Are you tired of the "good vibes only" culture in the church or self-help world? Let me know in the comments.
Empaths Playing Victim is a Red Flag Nobody Talks About
Stop putting "Empath" in your Instagram bio. 🛑 It’s the truth your therapist is too afraid to tell you: You aren't a victim of bad luck. If you keep attracting narcissists, it’s because you have no boundaries. You are signaling that you are desperate for validation and willing to be a martyr. I’m Michael—a psychologist in training, a sober dad, and a recovering egomaniac. In this video, we are burning the victim card. We are talking about the Human Magnet Syndrome, the Jezebel Spirit, and why your people-pleasing is actually biblical idolatry. You aren't an empath; you’re likely a narcissist enabler or a covert narcissist hiding in plain sight. 👇 Discussion: Does this trigger you, or do you agree that "empath" is often just a label for zero boundaries? Sound off in the comments.
Why You’re Obsessed (It’s Not Love)
Limerence isn't just "love"—it’s the ultimate painkiller. 🚩 If you are focusing 100% of your energy on them, it’s usually a distraction so you don't have to look at you. It’s a way to avoid your own trauma, your career, and your relationship with God. In this video, I break down why the Bible calls this "idolatry" (Romans 1:25). We look at the story of Leah and Jacob to show what happens when you ask a flawed human being to do the job of God. Humans make terrible gods—they crumble, leave, and disappoint. Stop looking for a Savior in a partner. 👇 Discussion: Have you ever realized your obsession was actually a distraction from your own pain? Let me know in the comments.
The Resentment Hidden Behind Kindness
⚠️ The most dangerous person in the room isn’t the villain—it’s the “nice” one. This Short dismantles Nice Guy / Nice Girl syndrome: covert contracts, the fawn response, and why people-pleasing turns kindness into control. When generosity has strings attached, it’s not love—it’s manipulation fueled by resentment.Learn why real goodness requires boundaries, why Jesus was good but not “nice,” and how to stop buying affection with favors. If you’re done being quietly furious, this is for you. 👉 Like, comment, and subscribe for straight talk on mental health, recovery, faith, and relationships.