CPTSD
2 episodes tagged "CPTSD".
Do You Sabotage Your Own Happiness?
🔥 Why You’d Rather Be the Underdog Than a Winner Who Fails 🔥 You ever pick a fight just to see if they’ll leave? Or pour a drink to test whether the good times can survive a little chaos? Yeah. Been there. I used to do it constantly: ☠️ Things got stable? I’d light a match. ☠️ I’d sabotage the relationship, the job, the moment. ☠️ Why? Because I was tired of being hurt — so I’d strike first. 👉 “I don’t deserve anything good.” 👉 “If I ruin it first, I can’t be disappointed.” That, my friends, is what self-sabotage looks like. And here’s the kicker: There’s a 2017 study in The Journal of Personality that found that people with low self-efficacy — meaning you don’t believe in your ability to succeed — will actively destroy good opportunities just to avoid the pressure of keeping that success. 💡 In short: You’d rather stay the underdog… than risk being a winner who fails. Let that sit. This fear-of-success cycle is deep, raw, and damn common. But here’s the good news: once you name it, you can fight it. You are not broken. You’re wired for survival. But now? It’s time to rewrite the script.
How Growing Up With Chaos Changes Your Brain!
🔥 Self-Sabotage Is Just Fear in a Shot Glass 🔥 Let’s get real. That thing you call “just a drink,” or “just one mistake,” or “just bad luck”? It’s not. It’s fear — dressed up like freedom. It’s fear in a shot glass. And here’s the uncomfortable truth: 👉 Self-sabotage is often a trauma response. If you grew up with abuse, neglect, or emotional chaos, your brain didn’t just take notes — it built a blueprint. A blueprint that says: 💣 “Failure is coming.” 💣 “Good things don’t last.” 💣 “It’s safer to crash first than be blindsided later.” Sound familiar? That’s your nervous system trying to protect you the only way it knows how — by torching your own progress before someone else does. But here’s what I want you to know: 🚫 That fear is lying to you. 🚫 You are not doomed to repeat this cycle. ✅ You can rewire the blueprint. This is part 6 of our deep dive into self-sabotage, trauma, and why your worst enemy might be staring back at you in the mirror. It’s heavy. But so is the truth — and it’ll set you free if you’re brave enough to face it. 👇 Drop a comment: What pattern are YOU ready to break?