datingadvice
3 episodes tagged "datingadvice".
Stop Trying to Fix People
Why is your best friend always in a crisis, and why do you keep dating "projects"? 🚩 It’s time for some brutal honesty: Healthy, secure adults don’t tolerate rescuers. When you try to over-function for someone who is stable, they’ll tell you to back off. To a rescuer, that boundary feels like rejection. This is why you subconsciously seek out "emotional black holes"—people with narcissism or severe codependency who will gladly consume every bit of energy you give. A narcissist needs a worshiper, and a rescuer needs a project. It’s a match made in psychological hell. Does this cycle sound familiar? Let’s talk about it in the comments. 👇 If you’re ready to break the cycle and master your mindset, hit Subscribe. 🔔
The "Savior Complex" is Arrogance
Who do you think you are... the Holy Spirit? 🕊️ We need to talk about the "Savior Complex" that hides in the church. You tell yourself staying with him is "long-suffering" (Galatians 5), but let’s be real: thinking your love can cure a personality disorder isn't faith—it's arrogance. In this video, I break down why we actually like being the martyr. As long as they are "broken," you get to be the "saint." It feeds your ego to be the stable one. But God already sent a Savior, and it isn't you. Based on Proverbs 4:23, your job isn't to fix their heart; it's to guard yours. 👇 Discussion: Be honest: Have you ever stayed in a toxic relationship because being the "healthy one" made you feel superior? Let's confess in the comments.
Why You Can't Leave The Narcissist
"But when it's good, it's so good." That isn't love talking—that is the voice of an addict. 🚩 If you're stuck in a cycle of "breadcrumbs"—waiting for a random text or one nice date after weeks of misery—you're experiencing Intermittent Reinforcement. In this video, I explain why the narcissist is just a slot machine. They keep you hooked not by being mean 100% of the time, but by being nice randomly. This spikes your dopamine and keeps you chasing the high, just like a gambler. You aren't staying because of love; you're staying because of biochemical dependency. It’s time to stop being a lab rat in their experiment. 👇 Discussion: Does your relationship feel consistent (boring) or like a gambling addiction (highs and lows)? Let's talk about it in the comments.