Enneagram
4 episodes tagged "Enneagram".
The Hard Truth About Making a Marriage Work |
Is love just an emotion, or is it a daily choice? In this clip, we break down why love is an action word and how different personality types handle conflict and growth in a relationship. It's easy to love someone when you wake up feeling great, but what happens when the "unicorn farts and rainbows" fade? We discuss the real, actionable side of love and dive into a classic Enneagram relationship dynamic. Watch as we explore what happens when an Enneagram 8 (the Challenger who wants to push and get things done) navigates life with an Enneagram 9 (the Peacemaker who tends to withdraw). Michael and his wife's dynamic perfectly illustrates how two entirely different approaches to conflict can actually help balance a relationship—teaching the 8 to find their softer side, and empowering the 9 to embrace action and boundaries. If this dynamic resonated with you, hit subscribe for more relationship insights and psychological breakdowns!
Grieving a Toxic Parent Who is Still Alive (The Mother Wound) w/ Barbie.
If you've ever had to protect your peace by walking away from a toxic family dynamic, you are not alone. In this episode of Sober Psychology, I am joined by my good friend Barbie Hahn to unpack the reality of the mother wound and surviving a childhood warzone. We explore how different Enneagram types process trauma (7w8 vs. 8w7) , the unique pain of grieving a parent who is still alive , and how to reconcile faith with the necessity of hard boundaries. Barbie shares her incredible journey from escaping chaos to finding a steady anchor, and leaves us with one of the most powerful pieces of advice: how to be your own mom. Don't be a jerk, just subscribe! Keep your head up, keep your heart open, and go help somebody. Barbie makes incredible content on her Instagram account. You can find that here: https://www.instagram.com/barbiehahna/
Why you aggressively clean the kitchen at 10 PM |
Are you starting fights just to get their attention? Let's talk about the Ego's Hitman and the "counterfeit intimacy" of conflict. 🛑🧠 Why do we sabotage a perfectly peaceful evening? Because conflict is loud, passionate, and requires eye contact. It mimics the intensity of intimacy, but without the terrifying risk of actual vulnerability. Your ego is basically a hitman hired to kill your peace, and it uses your specific personality structure to pull the trigger. If you're the Challenger type, you pick a fight to test their loyalty (I am very guilty of doing this with Skylar). If you're the Helper type, you become a martyr, aggressively cleaning the kitchen at 10 PM and sighing loudly so they ask what's wrong. And if you're the Peacemaker, you shut down, withhold affection, and make them guess why you're mad. It's time to stop the sabotage and learn how to be genuinely vulnerable. 💬 Let me know in the comments: Which sabotage style are you most guilty of: the Challenger, the Helper, or the Peacemaker? Be honest. 👇 If this hit a little too close to home, hit that LIKE button and SUBSCRIBE to Sober Psychology for more raw truth on mental health, relationships, and breaking toxic cycles.
The Surprising Way to Improve Your Relationships
🧠 Want to stop sabotaging your relationships? It starts with mindfulness. Jon Kabat-Zinn’s MBSR program helps reduce impulsivity and rewire emotional responses. Combine that with Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages and the Enneagram, and you’ve got a roadmap to secure attachment, emotional growth, and better communication. 💡 Learn your triggers. Heal your patterns. Become a better partner, friend, and human. 👉 Like, comment, and subscribe for more raw truth on faith, psychology, and personal growth. 🔗 Watch more transformative insights here: