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Why your "help" is actually manipulation

Are you actually helping them, or are you just feeding your own "Fixer's High"? Let’s talk about the dark side of being the helper. 🧠🚩 Let's be brutally honest: when you operate out of this shadow side—especially if you identify as an Enneagram Type 2 or a chronic people-pleaser—your help isn't a gift. It's a covert contract. You get a dopamine and oxytocin hit from saving them, and when they don't validate your existence in return, you explode. That isn't love. That is emotional vampirism masked as charity. It's time to wake up and break the cycle. 💬 Let me know in the comments: Have you ever caught yourself making a "covert contract" with someone you were helping? Be honest. 👇 If this exposed a nerve, hit that LIKE button and SUBSCRIBE for more no-BS truths on psychology, shadow work, and real personal growth.