Why your "help" is actually manipulation
Are you actually helping them, or are you just feeding your own "Fixer's High"? Let’s talk about the dark side of being the helper. 🧠🚩
Let's be brutally honest: when you operate out of this shadow side—especially if you identify as an Enneagram Type 2 or a chronic people-pleaser—your help isn't a gift. It's a covert contract. You get a dopamine and oxytocin hit from saving them, and when they don't validate your existence in return, you explode. That isn't love. That is emotional vampirism masked as charity. It's time to wake up and break the cycle.
💬 Let me know in the comments: Have you ever caught yourself making a "covert contract" with someone you were helping? Be honest. 👇
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This video is for general educational purposes and is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis or having thoughts of harming yourself, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) or go to your nearest emergency room.
About Michael
I'm Michael, a mental health creator, recovered alcoholic, future therapist, and the host of Sober Psychology. After realizing how much of the traditional mental health conversation misses the mark, I decided to build a space dedicated to raw, unfiltered self-examination and personal healing. My approach combines psychological principles with brutal honesty and hard truths, cutting through the noise to help people navigate their own growth. No toxic positivity, no hidden shame—just real conversations about what it actually takes to heal.