People Pleaser
2 episodes tagged "People Pleaser".
Why your "help" is actually manipulation
Are you actually helping them, or are you just feeding your own "Fixer's High"? Let’s talk about the dark side of being the helper. 🧠🚩 Let's be brutally honest: when you operate out of this shadow side—especially if you identify as an Enneagram Type 2 or a chronic people-pleaser—your help isn't a gift. It's a covert contract. You get a dopamine and oxytocin hit from saving them, and when they don't validate your existence in return, you explode. That isn't love. That is emotional vampirism masked as charity. It's time to wake up and break the cycle. 💬 Let me know in the comments: Have you ever caught yourself making a "covert contract" with someone you were helping? Be honest. 👇 If this exposed a nerve, hit that LIKE button and SUBSCRIBE for more no-BS truths on psychology, shadow work, and real personal growth.
The "Nice Guy" Syndrome: Why You Are Secretly Manipulative
Are you exhausted from doing everything for everyone? Do you feel resentful when people don't return your favors? In this 60-minute deep dive, I'll expose the dark psychology of the "Nice Guy" Syndrome and People Pleasing. We aren't just talking about being polite; we are talking about how your "kindness" is often a manipulative strategy to avoid conflict and buy love. We break down Covert Contracts (the hidden agreements you make in your head), the Fawn Trauma Response, and why Jesus wasn't actually "nice." We also explore Locus of Control, the Extinction Burst (what happens when you finally say "No"), and why the "Nice Guy" strategy is actually destroying your dating life. If you are ready to kill the martyr, set real boundaries, and stop living for everyone else's approval, this episode is the episode you need.