Fix Your Side Of The Street
2 episodes tagged "Fix Your Side Of The Street".
Is Your Trauma Holding You Back?
🗝️ The Shadow, The Scar & The Truth About Accountability Alright — let’s get real. You’ve heard me say it before: You can’t heal what you won’t face. That’s the shadow work, right? That dark corner of your psyche where the trauma lives — the parts you want to pretend don’t exist. If you’ve been hurt — physically, sexually, emotionally — that wound leaves a scar you’ll carry forever. But scars don’t have to fester. They will, though, if you bury them in denial. So hear me loud and clear: 👉 Your trauma is real. 👉 Your pain is valid. 👉 But your trauma is not a hall pass to be an asshole for the rest of your life. Capisce? Good. Now — let’s break down the psychology of accountability: ✅ Accountability = Ownership. Psychologically speaking, it’s the difference between “Yeah, life hurt me, so I get a free pass to stay broken” … and “Life hurt me — but what I do next is on me.” It’s not just saying “I screwed up.” It’s: “I screwed up — now here’s how I’m gonna make it right.” No excuses. No deflections. Just radical ownership and forward motion. 🧠 Shadow work + accountability = freedom. No more living as a victim to your own darkness. 👇 Drop ONE thing you’re gonna own this week — and what action you’re taking to fix it.
The One Thing That Makes Apologies Actually Stick
🎯 “Sorry” Is the Intent — Amends Are the Action Let’s clear this up once and for all: A real apology means nothing without change. “Sorry” is just you saying, “I don’t want to screw up again.” But an amends is you saying, “I will clean up my side of the street — here’s how.” Big difference. ✅ Intent without action = empty words ✅ Action without intent = performative BS You need both. That’s how trust gets rebuilt — not overnight, but step by step. Step 2: Set clear goals. Vague promises like “I’ll be better” are about as useful as a paper towel in a hurricane. 🌀 Use the SMART Goals system: 📌 Specific 📏 Measurable ✅ Achievable 🎯 Relevant ⏰ Time-bound It’s simple: stop saying “I’ll do better,” and get real. “I’ll reply to texts within an hour this week.” “I’ll hit 2 therapy sessions this month.” “I’ll do my nightly inventory every day for 30 days.” 🔬 There’s a 2019 study in Psychology Bulletin that shows goal-setting doubles your accountability AND your progress. It’s the two-for-one special your excuses can’t handle. 👊 Drop a comment: What’s one SMART goal you’re setting to back up your “Sorry” this week?