Healing Is Messy
2 episodes tagged "Healing Is Messy".
I Stopped Ruining My Life And You Can Too!
🚨 It’s Not Bad Luck. It’s You. But That’s GOOD News. 🚨 Look — it’s not fate. It’s not your zodiac sign. It’s not Mercury in retrograde. It’s just 100% you pulling the plug on your own happiness. But here’s the twist: if you pulled it, you can plug it back in. I spent 10 years blowing up my life with booze and bad decisions. A full decade. And yet here I am. Still standing. Still healing. Still building something better. Why? Because I finally stopped running and started facing my own crap. 📢 The science backs this too: ✅ Self-awareness ✅ Reframing thoughts ✅ Radical accountability ✅ Chasing those tiny wins …these things break the self-sabotage loop. You’re not broken. You’re just stuck. And stuck is fixable. You’ve got this. No more waiting for the stars to align. Unstick yourself. Let’s go.
Do You Sabotage Your Own Happiness?
🔥 Why You’d Rather Be the Underdog Than a Winner Who Fails 🔥 You ever pick a fight just to see if they’ll leave? Or pour a drink to test whether the good times can survive a little chaos? Yeah. Been there. I used to do it constantly: ☠️ Things got stable? I’d light a match. ☠️ I’d sabotage the relationship, the job, the moment. ☠️ Why? Because I was tired of being hurt — so I’d strike first. 👉 “I don’t deserve anything good.” 👉 “If I ruin it first, I can’t be disappointed.” That, my friends, is what self-sabotage looks like. And here’s the kicker: There’s a 2017 study in The Journal of Personality that found that people with low self-efficacy — meaning you don’t believe in your ability to succeed — will actively destroy good opportunities just to avoid the pressure of keeping that success. 💡 In short: You’d rather stay the underdog… than risk being a winner who fails. Let that sit. This fear-of-success cycle is deep, raw, and damn common. But here’s the good news: once you name it, you can fight it. You are not broken. You’re wired for survival. But now? It’s time to rewrite the script.