Inner Work
2 episodes tagged "Inner Work".
Why Is It So Hard To Feel Safe After Trauma?
🎯 Why You Blow Up Your Own Success (And How to STOP) 🎯 Ever find yourself on the verge of something great — a promotion, a healthy relationship, a breakthrough — and suddenly you’re the one lighting the match and watching it burn? Yeah. That’s not coincidence. That’s trauma wiring. If you grew up with chaos, neglect, or inconsistency — you’re not broken, you’re programmed. 💥 “If everything is good, something bad must be coming.” 💥 “This much peace can’t be trusted.” Sound familiar? That’s attachment theory 101 — shout-out to John Bowlby. You didn’t choose the instability, but your brain adapted to it. And now, as an adult, when you finally get the “win,” your nervous system panics — because stability feels unsafe. That’s why self-sabotage is not about laziness or stupidity — it’s about survival patterns you never asked for. But here's the thing: 🚫 Survival mode is not a permanent home. ✅ You can rewire this. This is part 5 of our series on self-sabotage — and trust me, if you’ve ever trashed something good just because you didn’t believe you deserved it… this one’s for you. 🧠 Comment below: What belief about success are you working to unlearn? Let’s fight this lie together.
Why Do We Hold On To Pain?
💥 “Stop Feeding the Monster — Why We Cling to Suffering” Listen up, Sober Psychology fam — let’s talk about the uncomfortable truth nobody likes to admit: sometimes your suffering feels comfortable. Yeah, I said it. Some of you were raised in chaos — confusion, pain, betrayal — and that chaos became home. So you cling to the hurt like it’s a damn security blanket. You feed that monster inside you every day. You become the pain. You wear it like armor. It gives you an excuse to stay stuck, to lash out, to not grow. But here’s the gut-punch truth: holding onto that suffering is poisoning you. I’m not saying you snap your fingers and it vanishes — I’m saying you learn to face it in a healthy way. Journal it out. Talk it out. Pray it out. Scream into a pillow if you have to. Give that pain some air to breathe — because suffocating it just lets it rot inside you. And here’s what nobody wants to believe when you’re in the pit: Whatever feels like it’s gonna kill you today? It’ll be microscopic a year from now. Not because “time heals all wounds” (cliché, but kinda true). But because time gives you perspective. And perspective gives you power. You don’t have to become the suffering. Let it teach you. Let it sharpen you. Then let it go. 👇 Drop a comment: What monster are you done feeding this year?