traumaresponse
3 episodes tagged "traumaresponse".
Why You Love Being Angry
You say you want to move on... but I don't believe you. 🛑 Part of you loves the anger. Why? Because anger is a stimulant. It gives you a hit of adrenaline (energy) and dopamine (reward). It makes you feel strong, while grief makes you feel weak. In this video, I explain Anger as a Secondary Emotion. Think of resentment as a "Bodyguard." He stands at the door of your heart to protect you from pain, but he's corrupt. He isn't just keeping the bad guys out; he's keeping your wife, your kids, and even God out. Stop using your trauma as social currency. As long as it pays in validation, you'll never let it go. 👇 Discussion: Be honest: Does being angry make you feel "safe" or "powerful"? Let’s talk about the addiction to righteous indignation in the comments.
Why You Can't Get Out of Bed (Polyvagal Theory)
You aren't lazy, you're just frozen. 🧊 If you think staying in bed all day is just "aesthetic" or "protecting your peace," you might actually be dealing with a chronic state of low-grade depression. In this video, I break down the Polyvagal Theory to explain why "Bed Rotting" is actually a Functional Freeze response (Dorsal Vagal Shutdown). When your nervous system is overwhelmed, it doesn't just run (fight/flight)—it plays possum to survive. We’re discussing the "Noonday Demon," dopamine fatigue, and why scrolling TikTok is actually work for your brain, not rest. 👇 Discussion: Which state are you in right now? Green (Safe), Red (Anxious), or Blue (Frozen)? Let me know in the comments.
Why "Bed Rotting" Makes You Tired
If you lie in bed for 6 hours and feel worse, you weren't resting—you were hiding. 🛑 "Bed Rotting" is trending, but we need to talk about the biology behind it. When you are overwhelmed by life, your body hits the emergency brake. You enter a "freeze" response—like a possum playing dead. In this video, I explain why rotting consumes energy while true rest creates it. We also look at the science of your Circadian Rhythm. By staying in a dark room, you are confusing your Suprachiasmatic Nucleus (SCN). You are missing that crucial morning cortisol spike that tells your brain, "The apocalypse isn't happening, it's just Tuesday." Get some sunlight. Stop the rot. 👇 Discussion: Do you feel energized or drained after a "bed rot" day? Let me know in the comments.