The brutal truth about saving a "victim"
Stop handing matches to arsonists and complaining about the smoke. Here's why rescuing people is destroying you. 🛑🔥
When you constantly swoop in to save someone who has a victim mentality, you aren't actually helping them—you're writing a script that ends with you becoming the victim.
You pay their bills, you fix their problems, and when they blow it, you become resentful. Boom: you've moved from the rescuer to the persecutor, and they attack you right back. Every time you try to rescue someone who isn't asking for help, you trap yourself in this toxic cycle. It's time to stop handing them your wallet and crying when they burn the money.
💬 Let me know in the comments: What role do you usually default to in the Drama Triangle: the Rescuer, the Victim, or the Persecutor? Be honest. 👇
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This video is for general educational purposes and is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis or having thoughts of harming yourself, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) or go to your nearest emergency room.
About Michael
I'm Michael, a mental health creator, recovered alcoholic, future therapist, and the host of Sober Psychology. After realizing how much of the traditional mental health conversation misses the mark, I decided to build a space dedicated to raw, unfiltered self-examination and personal healing. My approach combines psychological principles with brutal honesty and hard truths, cutting through the noise to help people navigate their own growth. No toxic positivity, no hidden shame—just real conversations about what it actually takes to heal.