Setting Boundaries Brace for the 'Extinction Burst'!
I need to warn you—when you start setting boundaries, things often get worse before they get better. In psychology, this is called an extinction burst. The moment you stop being the vending machine, the people who benefited from your lack of boundaries will escalate: guilt trips, accusations, emotional pressure. That doesn’t mean you’re wrong—it means the old system is breaking.
Hold the line. Don’t JADE (justify, argue, defend, explain). Use the broken-record response and let the tantrum pass. If you cave during the burst, you teach people to scream louder next time. If you stay steady, the behavior extinguishes—and respect follows.
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This video is for general educational purposes and is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis or having thoughts of harming yourself, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) or go to your nearest emergency room.
About Michael
I'm Michael, a mental health creator, recovered alcoholic, future therapist, and the host of Sober Psychology. After realizing how much of the traditional mental health conversation misses the mark, I decided to build a space dedicated to raw, unfiltered self-examination and personal healing. My approach combines psychological principles with brutal honesty and hard truths, cutting through the noise to help people navigate their own growth. No toxic positivity, no hidden shame—just real conversations about what it actually takes to heal.