Childhood Trauma
5 episodes tagged "Childhood Trauma".
You aren't trying to feel pain. You want control. |
Are you self-sabotaging because you want to feel pain, or because you're desperately trying to establish control? Let's talk about the "trauma hurricane." 🌪️🧠 If you grew up in a chaotic environment with an unpredictable or emotionally absent parent, you learned that pain is inevitable. So as an adult, when things are finally calm, the anticipation of the next disaster becomes psychological torture. Instead of waiting for the hurricane to hit, you create it yourself. You pick a fight, you drink the bottle, you ruin the marriage—all because it makes you the author of the tragedy instead of a helpless victim. It’s a tragic survival strategy. To fix this deeply ingrained mechanism, we have to move from self-harm to self-parenting. You have to become the father to your own mind, regulate your nervous system, and remind yourself that you are safe. We aren't running out into the rain today. 💬 Let me know in the comments: Have you ever caught yourself starting a "hurricane" just to control the narrative? 👇 If this resonated with you, hit that LIKE button and SUBSCRIBE for more raw truth on psychology, trauma recovery, and breaking generational cycles.
Why Your Brain Chose 'I'm Bad' Over 'My Parents Are Bad'
Let me say this plainly: you’re not a hostage anymore. If you keep defending your parents at the expense of your own reality, there’s a psychological mechanism keeping you stuck—the fantasy bond. As kids, we needed our parents to survive. Admitting they were unsafe felt life-threatening, so our brains flipped the script: they’re good, I’m bad. That lie gave us hope and control. But that survival strategy becomes a prison in adulthood. It’s Stockholm Syndrome—falling in love with your captors to stay alive. Healing starts when you shatter the fantasy bond, tell the truth about what happened, and grieve it. If you can’t grieve it, you’ll repeat it. Fire your parents from being your gods. They were flawed people—not divine authorities. If this hit home, like, comment, and subscribe for honest conversations about trauma, recovery, and faith. —Michael, Sober Psychology
How Growing Up With Chaos Changes Your Brain!
🔥 Self-Sabotage Is Just Fear in a Shot Glass 🔥 Let’s get real. That thing you call “just a drink,” or “just one mistake,” or “just bad luck”? It’s not. It’s fear — dressed up like freedom. It’s fear in a shot glass. And here’s the uncomfortable truth: 👉 Self-sabotage is often a trauma response. If you grew up with abuse, neglect, or emotional chaos, your brain didn’t just take notes — it built a blueprint. A blueprint that says: 💣 “Failure is coming.” 💣 “Good things don’t last.” 💣 “It’s safer to crash first than be blindsided later.” Sound familiar? That’s your nervous system trying to protect you the only way it knows how — by torching your own progress before someone else does. But here’s what I want you to know: 🚫 That fear is lying to you. 🚫 You are not doomed to repeat this cycle. ✅ You can rewire the blueprint. This is part 6 of our deep dive into self-sabotage, trauma, and why your worst enemy might be staring back at you in the mirror. It’s heavy. But so is the truth — and it’ll set you free if you’re brave enough to face it. 👇 Drop a comment: What pattern are YOU ready to break?
Is Social Media Making Our Egos Too Big?
🧠 Childhood Trauma, Ego & the Death of Real Conversation | Sober Psychology Short Here’s the uncomfortable truth: Most of you aren’t bad at talking — you’re bad at listening. And it’s not always your fault. If you grew up feeling like you had to prove your worth to be loved… Oversharing probably became your survival tactic. Now pair that with ego — fueled by social media’s endless stream of highlight reels — and you've got the perfect storm for terrible conversations. You’re not connecting. You’re performing. 📉 The result? Disconnection, loneliness, and shallow relationships. But here’s the fix — and it’s psychological: ✅ Practice active listening (yes, again). ❌ Stop talking just to be liked. 🔁 Reflect instead of react. Real conversation isn’t about you winning. It’s about you being willing to show up, shut up, and actually hear someone. You want to be worthy of love? Start by being curious — not impressive.
Childhood Trauma: The Gift That Keeps on Giving | Sober Psychology Episode 23
Ever wonder why you’re a mess at 35 over a burnt bagel? Spoiler: it’s not just you—it’s that invisible backpack of crap you’ve been hauling since you were a kid. In this 35-minute dive, we’re getting real about where this trauma train starts (thanks, Mom and Dad!), how it rewires your brain to freak out at fireworks, and why it keeps screwing with your relationships, health, and sanity. Plus, some legit ways to climb out of the hole—spoiler again: therapy’s involved, but so is swearing at the process. It’s brutal, it’s funny, it’s science-y, and it might just hit too close to home. Drop a like if you’ve got dents with character, subscribe for more unfiltered psych talk, and share this with that friend who needs it (you know the one). New ep next week—see ya there!