Therapy Talk
4 episodes tagged "Therapy Talk".
Is Self-Sabotage Ruining Your Life?
💣 Self-Sabotage Isn't a Quirk — It's a Wrecking Ball. 💣 Let’s stop pretending that self-sabotage is some quirky personality trait like “Oops! I procrastinated again 😅.” No. It’s a psychological wrecking ball that destroys more than just your plans — it wrecks your relationships, your reputation, and your mental health. 📉 A 2019 study in Frontiers in Psychology found that chronic self-sabotage is directly linked to higher depression, anxiety, and conflict in relationships. You’re not just missing deadlines or dodging growth — you’re torching bridges and handing out emotional shrapnel to everyone close to you. That missed deadline? Now your whole team’s pissed. That relationship you blew up out of fear? They’re walking away with battle scars. And you? You're building a life no one wants to get near. 💥 Self-sabotage doesn’t just hurt you — it makes you radioactive. 🧠 It’s time to stop calling it “just how I am.” It’s not cute. It’s costly.
I Stopped Ruining My Life And You Can Too!
🚨 It’s Not Bad Luck. It’s You. But That’s GOOD News. 🚨 Look — it’s not fate. It’s not your zodiac sign. It’s not Mercury in retrograde. It’s just 100% you pulling the plug on your own happiness. But here’s the twist: if you pulled it, you can plug it back in. I spent 10 years blowing up my life with booze and bad decisions. A full decade. And yet here I am. Still standing. Still healing. Still building something better. Why? Because I finally stopped running and started facing my own crap. 📢 The science backs this too: ✅ Self-awareness ✅ Reframing thoughts ✅ Radical accountability ✅ Chasing those tiny wins …these things break the self-sabotage loop. You’re not broken. You’re just stuck. And stuck is fixable. You’ve got this. No more waiting for the stars to align. Unstick yourself. Let’s go.
Do You Sabotage Your Own Happiness?
🔥 Why You’d Rather Be the Underdog Than a Winner Who Fails 🔥 You ever pick a fight just to see if they’ll leave? Or pour a drink to test whether the good times can survive a little chaos? Yeah. Been there. I used to do it constantly: ☠️ Things got stable? I’d light a match. ☠️ I’d sabotage the relationship, the job, the moment. ☠️ Why? Because I was tired of being hurt — so I’d strike first. 👉 “I don’t deserve anything good.” 👉 “If I ruin it first, I can’t be disappointed.” That, my friends, is what self-sabotage looks like. And here’s the kicker: There’s a 2017 study in The Journal of Personality that found that people with low self-efficacy — meaning you don’t believe in your ability to succeed — will actively destroy good opportunities just to avoid the pressure of keeping that success. 💡 In short: You’d rather stay the underdog… than risk being a winner who fails. Let that sit. This fear-of-success cycle is deep, raw, and damn common. But here’s the good news: once you name it, you can fight it. You are not broken. You’re wired for survival. But now? It’s time to rewrite the script.
Why Do We Keep Going Back To Therapy?
🧠 Freud, Adler & the Brutal Reality of Your Baggage Alright, let’s break this down — therapist-in-training style. Yeah, you can argue Freud’s whole psychoanalytic model absolutely built a business plan: “Keep digging up your past so you keep coming back.” Meanwhile, Adler’s approach (shoutout to my psychology nerds) focused on purpose, growth, and moving forward — not super lucrative if people actually heal and bounce, right? But here’s the reality bomb — regardless of which camp you vibe with: You don’t have to carry your wounds forever. I still have memories I wish I didn’t. I still catch a grudge sneaking up on me sometimes. But the only reason I’m not the same raging, self-sabotaging, whiskey-soaked asshole I used to be is because I addressed it. I sat with it. I exposed those demons. I shined a damn flashlight in the shadow so they couldn’t rule me anymore. ✅ That’s not Freud vs. Adler — that’s just psychological truth. Trauma buried grows fangs. Trauma faced loses its power. So ask yourself: What demon do you know you’re still keeping in the dark? What’s one shadow that needs light? 👇 Drop it in the comments if you’re brave enough. No shame. Just growth.