toxicrelationships
4 episodes tagged "toxicrelationships".
The "King of Your Own Dirt Pile"
Proverbs 26:11 says, "Like a dog that returns to his vomit is a fool who repeats his folly." It's one of the most disgusting images in scripture, but it is perfectly accurate. Why does the dog go back? Because it's warm. It's familiar. It's theirs. We do the exact same thing. We return to our toxic exes, the bottle, the pornography, and the self-loathing because it is "familiar vomit." Even the Apostle Paul struggled with this in Romans 7:15: "For I do not understand my own actions. For I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing I hate." This is the definition of the human condition. It is the definition of addiction. Why do we do it? Because peace requires surrender. It requires you to submit to God's pacing. But misery? Misery only requires self-sabotage. We would rather be the kings of our own miserable little dirt pile than servants in God's peaceful kingdom. Because if I'm miserable, I'm still the center of my universe, and I have an excuse not to grow up. It is time to leave the dirt pile.
Stop Falling for This Manipulation Trick
Do you ever catch them in a lie, but somehow by the end of the argument, you are the one apologizing? 🤯 That isn't an accident. It is a calculated manipulation tactic called DARVO. Deny. Attack. Reverse Victim and Offender. In this video, I give you a concrete example of how this plays out (like the "texting the ex" scenario) so you can spot it in real-time. They will try to make you feel like the "abuser" just for noticing their bad behavior. Stop apologizing for reality. Learn to spot the script so you don't get played. 👇 Discussion: Have you ever experienced DARVO? Did they make you feel crazy for stating a fact? Tell me your story in the comments.
Empaths Playing Victim is a Red Flag Nobody Talks About
Stop putting "Empath" in your Instagram bio. 🛑 It’s the truth your therapist is too afraid to tell you: You aren't a victim of bad luck. If you keep attracting narcissists, it’s because you have no boundaries. You are signaling that you are desperate for validation and willing to be a martyr. I’m Michael—a psychologist in training, a sober dad, and a recovering egomaniac. In this video, we are burning the victim card. We are talking about the Human Magnet Syndrome, the Jezebel Spirit, and why your people-pleasing is actually biblical idolatry. You aren't an empath; you’re likely a narcissist enabler or a covert narcissist hiding in plain sight. 👇 Discussion: Does this trigger you, or do you agree that "empath" is often just a label for zero boundaries? Sound off in the comments.
Why You Can't Leave The Narcissist
"But when it's good, it's so good." That isn't love talking—that is the voice of an addict. 🚩 If you're stuck in a cycle of "breadcrumbs"—waiting for a random text or one nice date after weeks of misery—you're experiencing Intermittent Reinforcement. In this video, I explain why the narcissist is just a slot machine. They keep you hooked not by being mean 100% of the time, but by being nice randomly. This spikes your dopamine and keeps you chasing the high, just like a gambler. You aren't staying because of love; you're staying because of biochemical dependency. It’s time to stop being a lab rat in their experiment. 👇 Discussion: Does your relationship feel consistent (boring) or like a gambling addiction (highs and lows)? Let's talk about it in the comments.