narcissist
5 episodes tagged "narcissist".
Stop Being a Drug Dealer for the Narcissist
Everyone knows the story of Narcissus, the boy who fell in love with his own reflection. But nobody talks about Echo. 🥀 Echo was the nymph cursed to only repeat the words of others. She had no voice of her own. In this video, I explain why many partners of narcissists are actually "Echoists." You have been supporting their dreams and agreeing with their reality for so long that you have forgotten who you are. "What do you want for dinner?" "I don't know, what do you want?" Here is the hard truth: If you're an Echo, you aren't just a victim. You're a supply source. You're a drug dealer feeding the narcissist the validation they need to stay sick. The most loving thing you can do is find your own voice. 👇 Discussion: Do you feel like you've lost your own voice in your relationship? Let me know in the comments.
The Math Behind Toxic Relationships (-5 vs +5)
You aren't "unlucky" in love—you are following a mathematical pattern. 🧮 In this video, I break down Ross Rosenberg’s Human Magnet Syndrome and the concept of Limbic Resonance. If you struggle with Self-Love Deficit Disorder (codependency), you are likely a "-5" on the emotional scale. You don't attract healthy partners; you inevitably attract "+5" narcissists because the math equals zero. It feels like a soulmate connection, but it’s actually a trauma bond. The "spark" you are looking for? That’s just anxiety. And if you found a healthy, stable partner, you’d probably be bored out of your mind because your nervous system is wired for war. I know because I've been there. Peace feels boring when you're addicted to chaos. 👇 Discussion: Be honest: Have you ever broken up with a nice person because there was "no spark"? Let's talk about it.
Stop Falling for This Manipulation Trick
Do you ever catch them in a lie, but somehow by the end of the argument, you are the one apologizing? 🤯 That isn't an accident. It is a calculated manipulation tactic called DARVO. Deny. Attack. Reverse Victim and Offender. In this video, I give you a concrete example of how this plays out (like the "texting the ex" scenario) so you can spot it in real-time. They will try to make you feel like the "abuser" just for noticing their bad behavior. Stop apologizing for reality. Learn to spot the script so you don't get played. 👇 Discussion: Have you ever experienced DARVO? Did they make you feel crazy for stating a fact? Tell me your story in the comments.
Empaths Playing Victim is a Red Flag Nobody Talks About
Stop putting "Empath" in your Instagram bio. 🛑 It’s the truth your therapist is too afraid to tell you: You aren't a victim of bad luck. If you keep attracting narcissists, it’s because you have no boundaries. You are signaling that you are desperate for validation and willing to be a martyr. I’m Michael—a psychologist in training, a sober dad, and a recovering egomaniac. In this video, we are burning the victim card. We are talking about the Human Magnet Syndrome, the Jezebel Spirit, and why your people-pleasing is actually biblical idolatry. You aren't an empath; you’re likely a narcissist enabler or a covert narcissist hiding in plain sight. 👇 Discussion: Does this trigger you, or do you agree that "empath" is often just a label for zero boundaries? Sound off in the comments.
Why You Can't Leave The Narcissist
"But when it's good, it's so good." That isn't love talking—that is the voice of an addict. 🚩 If you're stuck in a cycle of "breadcrumbs"—waiting for a random text or one nice date after weeks of misery—you're experiencing Intermittent Reinforcement. In this video, I explain why the narcissist is just a slot machine. They keep you hooked not by being mean 100% of the time, but by being nice randomly. This spikes your dopamine and keeps you chasing the high, just like a gambler. You aren't staying because of love; you're staying because of biochemical dependency. It’s time to stop being a lab rat in their experiment. 👇 Discussion: Does your relationship feel consistent (boring) or like a gambling addiction (highs and lows)? Let's talk about it in the comments.