Slip vs. Relapse: The psychology that saves lives |
Are you weaponizing your own perfectionism against yourself? Let’s talk about the "f*-it switch" and the Abstinence Violation Effect. 🛑🧠**
Have you ever broken a 300-day streak and immediately thought, "Well, I already blew it, I might as well burn the whole house down"? In the rooms, we call it the "f***-it switch." In psychology, it's called the Abstinence Violation Effect (AVE).
When you slip up, your brain experiences massive cognitive dissonance and weaponizes your perfectionism. But perfectionism is not a virtue in recovery—it's a trapdoor. A slip is a lapse in behavior; a relapse is a lapse in identity. If you drop your phone and scratch it, you don't pick up a hammer and smash the screen to dust. You pick it up and keep walking. You're not a streak of days; you're a human being learning how to walk. Defeat the AVE today.
💬 Let me know in the comments: Have you ever fallen into the trap of the Abstinence Violation Effect? Be honest. 👇
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This video is for general educational purposes and is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis or having thoughts of harming yourself, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) or go to your nearest emergency room.
About Michael
I'm Michael, a mental health creator, recovered alcoholic, future therapist, and the host of Sober Psychology. After realizing how much of the traditional mental health conversation misses the mark, I decided to build a space dedicated to raw, unfiltered self-examination and personal healing. My approach combines psychological principles with brutal honesty and hard truths, cutting through the noise to help people navigate their own growth. No toxic positivity, no hidden shame—just real conversations about what it actually takes to heal.